Non-acceptance

One thing that I'm really liking about Geneen's book is that a lot of what she's saying falls in line with Eckhart Tolle's teachings (and that man changed my life!). The idea of being in the now, of being in the present. Of not carrying past hurt around with you like luggage, and not judging yourself on past choices/experiences. Having awareness and living in the now.
Here's an excerpt from the book that I found interesting, and believe to be true.

"Stephen Levine, a Buddhist teacher, says that hell is wanting to be somewhere different from where you are. Being one place and wanting to be somewhere else. Being constantly agitated - another word for non-accepting - about the inevitable. Being in a relationship with someone and refusing to surrender to the love because you don't want to give yourself to something you will eventually lose.
That's called living in hell: refusing to love because you want the endgame to be different than it is. Wanting life to be different from what it is.
That's also called leaving without leaving. Dying before you die. It's as if there is a part of you that so rails against being shattered by love that you shatter yourself first. Another name for this pattern? Obsession."

Anyone guilty of that? It's got me written all over it!